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Once busy spending my leisure time, I came across a quote: “Life is something that happens to you, when you are busy planning something else“. I don’t know who wrote this line, but I guess lot of his dreams must have crashed before his bare eyes. By saying this I didn’t mean to humiliate this guy, lot of my dreams have betrayed me too. There was a time when I used to think, why life is so miserable? Why every bad thing happens to me? Why should I pay for others fault? Don’t worry, I am not gonna give “there are people who suffer worse” type of philosophy. If you have ever asked this same question to yourself, just spare some time, isolate yourself from all your worries and just think, if you were victim of situation, or your own mistakes. For some of your miseries, you can definitely blame 3rd person, but for most them, you will find yourself responsible.
Let’s take one at a time; though later requires a greater thought. You cannot control the first one anyways. He did what he had to do. It may be an accident or it may be a death of your closed one. You don’t have any control over these. It can often involve a pretty bad situation in office. You may not get what you actually deserve.
But think of the incidents where you suffered some financial loss or consider a relationship which crashed when you needed it the most. You can also think of broken promises or some unanswered calls. these have always been the major cause of your worries. ryt?
Financial Loss, a nightmare for every living being. It was your decision to invest in some crapy project or it may also be your ignorance to certain market factors, that you faced a loss. How can this be possible that you lost million dollars and your neighbor is printing money. Maybe he is having a better job, but that can make up to your income and not the loss. A lot of people live their life in EMIs. Just think when bank comes to auction your property, it was your decision to go for mortgage. We know ourselves very well. Then why is it that we fail to realize our potential? I don’t say that don’t take risk, just know your hidden self and exploit is as much as you can. Biggest thing, never ever rely on any one blindly when it comes to money. Cash can crash wisdom of the wisest saint….
This is the age when most of us go under a lot of hiccups in relationships. It involves your family, friends and of course your girl friend. We have a lot of differences with the views of our parents. I have them too. I am no saint. But whenever I think after a small disagreement, I feel so guilty. If it was not for them, their love for me, was it possible for me to be where I am now? They gave me right education and made me capable enough to think. How can I just disregard their view. I must have listened to them and should have found a mid way, which would have made us all happy.
it’s so often that we find it difficult to continue friendship with some of our friends. Think of the reasons that make you afraid of once your best friend. If I leave some really heart smashing conditions, most of the mistakes he did, you do daily but with someone else. Greatest reason being, your friend not calling you or picking up the call. He was the same person who underwent a lot of trouble for you. If he is not responding to you, isn’t this your duty find if he is actually busy or is he in some trouble? Its normal human attribute to isolate himself when he is tensed. How often you forget to call your friends when u want to be alone. Was he in the same situation when he cut your call? a lot of times we feel, I needed him and he was not ready to help me. Was this the only reason for your friendship? don’t tell me that you have never ever refused to help one of your friends, whatever may be the circumstances. We need to accept one thing. Every human being here is selfish in some way. Whatever we do we want something in return. Exceptions to this can be there, but I can assure you, you can count them on figures. So we cannot ignore our involvement in sour friendship. May be Mr. X did hurt you, but you may be Mr. X for some Mr. Y too..
Now coming to the most beautiful relationship… Love… ha ha ha… dream of all… people worship love so much, then why is it, they end up with breakups? There can be a lot of reasons… most of them I cannot comment on… one of the most complicated subjects after all…. but there are certain situation, which you can definitely avoid. Of all the miseries in love, worst of the lot, not in your control is the situation when the girl/boy was just playing with you. You can’t do any thing… she/he was a bitch/dog. So just blame them for everything. Ryt? How can you be in such a rush or how can you be so blind, that you were not able to recognize her true being. If you love her, it has to be more than looks. If you were not able to find that she was just playing, it’s definitely not love and you will definitely come out of it. But there are certain situations where you cannot blame anyone but yourself. Both of you are in a serious relationship but suddenly everything falls apart and you are miserable again. If it’s not the bollywood intercast drama, then definitely you are equally responsible for this end too. There are lot of reasons for breakup. Why is it, person you considered everything, suddenly makes you feel annoyed? Why is it, you feel yourself being possessive is fine, but if she feels possessive, you feel suffocating. You don’t have time for her, but if she cuts your call once, you yell at her. this can’t be it man. Love is something where you need to accept the person as her original self. How can you say you love her, if all you are trying to do is to change her as per your wish. It was again a selfish intention then. it is never about compromise it is always about accepting the person and believing her more than ever. Girls don’t feel flattered. it applies to you too. just replace “her” with “him” and “She” with “He”.. he he..
Sometimes we feel we are not getting what we deserve. It may be your rating or promotions too. Remember everything is relative. If you actually feel, you deserve better because you worked better than the crowd, don’t just sit and accept everything. If you are confident and can prove your stand, fight for it. Remember one thing. It’s always a give and take relationship. If you don’t fight, don’t blame the management.
Life is never easy. A lot of things will happen against your wish. When you find that it was you who is responsible for some of these, it will definitely help you to improve yourself. I am not criticizing you. After all we understand ourselves better.Ryt? So just sit and think. One thing is for sure, you love yourself so much that none of your faults can make you to despise yourself. What you can definitely do is correct those faults, blame yourself first, and find a solution. If you are not able to, then there are billions of people to blame. But it always starts with I.
